Story of time 

Because what you want, in real life has not developed according to your ideal state, has not reached your ideal state goal, but you are powerless to change the status quo, you cannot change through your own efforts or you try hard to change, the result is It still doesn’t help, and it doesn’t reach your ideals. But you are not reconciled. You are forced to accept the results you don’t want. You have emotional resistance, but the people and things around you will not change because of your will, so your emotions will be affected. You can’t control yourself, and the more you think about it, the more unbalanced you are, and you can’t control your emotions, so you suffer.

There are always reasons why you can’t achieve what you want. Face it objectively and rationally. Sometimes we might as well put our minds at ease. Life is for ourselves, not for others, for others. Views are what counts in the long river of their own life. There will always be helplessness and accidents of this or that kind in life. Even though you worked hard to prepare for the exam, you used a lot of overnight reading in order to get a good result, and you gave up a lot of social entertainment. As a result, you only failed to pass the exam by just one or two points, and you will regret it. , You will regret, you will cry bitterly.
Or if you want to keep the one you love, you have countless sleepless all night, you just ask her to change her mind and give you a chance, and then you shed tears and become decadent and inhuman, and the other party is still not touched. . So you have to regret letting go. Even so, you will still regret it.

The reason why we are suffering may be because we overestimated the objective facts of our own results. Our own anticipation goes beyond the objective reality, so that the actual state cannot reach the ideal state, and a contrast is formed in the heart, so the emotion cannot control the balance, so it is painful. It is more likely that there is no objective reason to analyze and judge the problem, and the result is too illusory and unrealistic.