Story of time 

There are many things in the adult world, various interests and desires, which will make us deeply involved. At this time, honest people will also make some people with bad intentions worry about them, so honest people will become their tools. . There are advantages and disadvantages to being honest people, but the world is so complicated. We want to be honest people, but we must also hide our weaknesses. Only in this way can we avoid being used by others. People who can be used by others mainly have the following three weaknesses

First, many people will not refuse when facing other people’s requests. Sometimes rejecting others will not cause others harm, but instead is a kind of protection for themselves. If everyone does not refuse, then We will be hurt a lot, and other people’s requests will make us breathless. For example, all people are working together, and everyone is asking you to help. At this time, you are the only one working, so everyone is resting, so you will become very tired. At this time You are used, and often because you don’t know how to refuse. We don’t have to refuse others over and over again. Sometimes we only need to refuse once. Others will know that we will not compromise easily, so they won’t use us often. Requests are not always promised, and when a person requests you, he should be prepared to be rejected!

Second, there is a kind of person who is very kind to all people. This kind of person is commonly known as the good old person. This kind of person does not just refuse to reject others, but will actively help others. There is no distinction between right and wrong when helping others, and there is no distinction between people at all! No matter if others treat you well or not, you will help others, which is a bit silly at this time. In fact, people’s hearts are a little bit biased. If we treat everyone in the same way, then friends who treat us sincerely will be hurt, and we will lose true friends, and those who get help from us may not be sincere. Yes, they will use us as gunmen. This kind of person is absolutely not allowed to do it.

Third, you must never become someone who can’t hold grudges. Although you can’t hold grudges for everything, you can’t be so big that you can forgive others for everything. Whether to bear grudges or not is to divide what matters to this point, everyone must have their own considerations. If it is something small, we will be stingy if we hold grudges. But if others bully us, we don’t hold grudges once, and then others will bully us all the time, so sometimes holding grudges is also to protect us. Sometimes others bully us. If we know that we are wrong, we can choose not to forgive them after thinking about it, but don’t hesitate to rehabilitate with others, so that others will think you are bullied!

Everyone is equal, and we don’t need to help others by harming our own interests. We must protect ourselves before we help others.